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"In stillness there | "In stillness there | ||
| − | is no blame or judgment." | + | is no blame or [[judgment]]." |
| − | <ref>[[Steps to Knowledge]], Step 205</ref> | + | <ref>''[[Steps to Knowledge]]'', Step 205: I will not judge the world today</ref> |
"Knowledge ... does not generate hate | "Knowledge ... does not generate hate | ||
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"People love to complain about the way things are and cast blame all around, but where are they | "People love to complain about the way things are and cast blame all around, but where are they | ||
| − | in responding to the world?" | + | in responding to [[the world]]?" |
<ref>The Watchtower (February 17, 2009)</ref> | <ref>The Watchtower (February 17, 2009)</ref> | ||
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"Do not project upon yourself the | "Do not project upon yourself the | ||
weight of blame and unforgiveness." | weight of blame and unforgiveness." | ||
| − | <ref>[[Steps to Knowledge]], Step 209</ref> | + | <ref>[http://stepstoknowledge.com/steps/Step209-I-will-not-be-cruel-with-myself-today.htm ''[[Steps to Knowledge]]'', Step 209: I will not be cruel with myself today]</ref> |
| − | "Do not attempt to justify your errors by | + | "Do not attempt to justify your [[mistakes|errors]] by |
projecting blame upon yourself or by accusing life of not giving | projecting blame upon yourself or by accusing life of not giving | ||
you what you need." | you what you need." | ||
| − | <ref>[[Steps to Knowledge]], Step 246</ref> | + | <ref>[http://stepstoknowledge.com/steps/Step246-There-is-no-justification-for-failing-to-reclaim-Knowledge.htm ''[[Steps to Knowledge]]'', Step 246: There is no justification for failing to reclaim Knowledge]</ref> |
| − | "Think about your relationship with God. Ask yourself: '... Have I blamed God | + | "Think about your [[relationship]] with [[God]]. Ask yourself: '... Have I blamed God |
for what has happened in my life?'” | for what has happened in my life?'” | ||
| − | <ref>[[Relationships & Higher Purpose]], Chapter 1</ref> | + | <ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/relationships-and-higher-purpose-chapter-1-your-most-primary-relationship ''[[Relationships & Higher Purpose]]'', Chapter 1: Your Most Primary Relationship]</ref> |
"You must take | "You must take | ||
| − | responsibility for your own suffering, accept your own suffering and learn from your own suffering | + | responsibility for your own [[suffering]], accept your own suffering and learn from your own suffering |
| − | without blame or a feeling of revenge upon others or life in general." | + | without blame or a feeling of [[revenge]] upon others or life in general." |
| − | <ref>[[Wisdom from the Greater Community]] Volume Two, Chapter 16</ref> | + | <ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/thresholds ''[[Wisdom from the Greater Community]] Volume Two'', Chapter 16: Thresholds]</ref> |
"Many have not responded to a greater need and a greater calling in their lives. | "Many have not responded to a greater need and a greater calling in their lives. | ||
Why blame them for this? Accept it." | Why blame them for this? Accept it." | ||
| − | <ref>[[Wisdom from the Greater Community]] Volume Two, Chapter 29</ref> | + | <ref>''[[Wisdom from the Greater Community]] Volume Two'', Chapter 29: Inspiration</ref> |
"Do not blame God for the hurricanes or the droughts or the pestilence or the pandemic | "Do not blame God for the hurricanes or the droughts or the pestilence or the pandemic | ||
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==Blaming God== | ==Blaming God== | ||
| − | "God did not invent your ideas and beliefs. God did not create your preferences and your fears. God did not create the world that is a product of everyone’s preferences and fears. You cannot blame God for the social conditions of humanity. You cannot blame God for wars and cruelty, exploitation, slavery and poverty. That is all a human creation based upon greed and ignorance, based upon not enough people contributing enough to the world around them. | + | "God did not invent your [[ideas]] and [[beliefs]]. God did not create your preferences and your fears. God did not create the world that is a product of everyone’s [[preferences]] and fears. You cannot blame God for the social conditions of humanity. You cannot blame God for wars and cruelty, exploitation, slavery and [[poverty]]. That is all a human creation based upon greed and ignorance, based upon not enough people contributing enough to the world around them. But God did create the presence of Knowledge within you, and only God’s New Revelation makes this very clear, without an overlay of history and human interpretation to cloud your understanding. The stream is clear. The Message is pure. You are receiving it from its [[Source]], instead of an interpretation that was made centuries later for human consumption." |
| − | But God did create the presence of Knowledge within you, and only God’s New Revelation makes this very clear, without an overlay of history and human interpretation to cloud your understanding. The stream is clear. The Message is pure. You are receiving it from its Source, instead of an interpretation that was made centuries later for human consumption." | ||
<ref name="tgoanl">[http://www.newmessage.org/nm/the-gift-of-a-new-life/ The Gift of a New Life (May 14, 2011)]</ref> | <ref name="tgoanl">[http://www.newmessage.org/nm/the-gift-of-a-new-life/ The Gift of a New Life (May 14, 2011)]</ref> | ||
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create hurricanes?' you may ask, but God only created the conditions under which hurricanes | create hurricanes?' you may ask, but God only created the conditions under which hurricanes | ||
emerge. That was before there was any life in this world. But God did not create this hurricane to | emerge. That was before there was any life in this world. But God did not create this hurricane to | ||
| − | punish humanity. This is foolishness. This is ignorance." | + | punish humanity. This is foolishness. This is [[ignorance]]." |
<ref name="nand">[http://www.newmessage.org/nm/nature-and-natural-disasters/ Nature and Natural Disasters (September 8, 2008)]</ref> | <ref name="nand">[http://www.newmessage.org/nm/nature-and-natural-disasters/ Nature and Natural Disasters (September 8, 2008)]</ref> | ||
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you will panic, and your life will be overtaken with tragic consequences. You may blame God | you will panic, and your life will be overtaken with tragic consequences. You may blame God | ||
for this, but God has been warning you all along through your experience, through your dreams, | for this, but God has been warning you all along through your experience, through your dreams, | ||
| − | through your sensations and through your deeper emotions." | + | through your sensations and through your deeper [[emotions]]." |
<ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/nm/what-will-save-humanity/ What Will Save Humanity (March 30, 2008)]</ref> | <ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/nm/what-will-save-humanity/ What Will Save Humanity (March 30, 2008)]</ref> | ||
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| − | does not will for natural disasters, plagues, illness or catastrophes. | ||
You can blame these things on the old God, but not on the new God." | You can blame these things on the old God, but not on the new God." | ||
<ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/nm/the-new-god/ The New God]</ref> | <ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/nm/the-new-god/ The New God]</ref> | ||
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==Blaming the world== | ==Blaming the world== | ||
"For [men and women of Knowledge], the world is something very different. Its tribulations | "For [men and women of Knowledge], the world is something very different. Its tribulations | ||
| − | are opportunities. Its conflicts represent its calling. Its difficulties and disasters represent its condition. | + | are opportunities. Its [Conflict Resolution|conflicts] represent its calling. Its difficulties and disasters represent its condition. |
There is no complaint and no blame here. There is only work to be done." | There is no complaint and no blame here. There is only work to be done." | ||
| − | <ref>[[Greater Community Spirituality]], Chapter 2</ref> | + | <ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/greater-community-spirituality-chapter-2-what-is-the-world ''[[Greater Community Spirituality]]'', Chapter 2: What is the world?]</ref> |
"The world does not need blame. It needs | "The world does not need blame. It needs | ||
| − | service. It needs truth. And above all, it needs Knowledge." | + | [[service]]. It needs [[truth]]. And above all, it needs Knowledge." |
| − | <ref>[[Steps to Knowledge]], Step | + | <ref>[http://stepstoknowledge.com/steps/Step60-I-will-not-judge-the-world-today.htm ''[[Steps to Knowledge]]'', Step 60I will not judge the world today]</ref> |
"You have come here to do something. If you do not do it, you will | "You have come here to do something. If you do not do it, you will | ||
| − | feel very confused and frustrated.This is difficult to comprehend because | + | feel very [[Confusion |confused]] and frustrated.This is difficult to comprehend because |
you tend to blame your circumstances for this frustration." | you tend to blame your circumstances for this frustration." | ||
| − | <ref>[[Wisdom from the Greater Community]] Volume One, Chapter 19</ref> | + | <ref>''[[Wisdom from the Greater Community]] Volume One'', Chapter 19: Fulfillment </ref> |
| − | "You can blame many things, of course. You can blame culture. You can blame sinful attractions. | + | "You can blame many things, of course. You can blame [[culture]]. You can blame sinful attractions. |
You can blame the devil. You can blame God. You can blame a million things. But | You can blame the devil. You can blame God. You can blame a million things. But | ||
fundamentally it is because you are not being guided by Knowledge." | fundamentally it is because you are not being guided by Knowledge." | ||
<ref name="nand"/> | <ref name="nand"/> | ||
| − | "Change | + | "Change ... often generates blame and [[condemnation]]." |
| − | ... often generates blame and condemnation." | + | <ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/nm/wisdom-from-the-greater-community-volume-2-chapter-18-compassion/ ''[[Wisdom from the Greater Community]] Volume Two'', Chapter 18: Compassion]</ref> |
| − | <ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/nm/wisdom-from-the-greater-community-volume-2-chapter-18-compassion/ Wisdom from the Greater Community Volume Two, Chapter 18]</ref> | + | |
| + | [[File:Blame.jpg|left]] | ||
==Blaming others== | ==Blaming others== | ||
| − | "You cannot live in a state of fantasy or denial, | + | "You cannot live in a state of fantasy or [[denial]], |
projecting your blame and hostility on your parents or your culture or organizations or | projecting your blame and hostility on your parents or your culture or organizations or | ||
governments." | governments." | ||
| − | <ref>God Has Spoken Again | + | <ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/god-has-spoken God Has Spoken Again (February 24, 2011)]</ref> |
| − | (February 24, 2011)</ref> | ||
| − | "Your spiritual work must fundamentally deal with the issue of resolution and forgiveness, which | + | "Your spiritual work must fundamentally deal with the issue of [[Conflict Resolution|resolution]] and [[forgiveness]], which |
| − | requires that you gain an understanding of the reality of those people whom you blame or with | + | requires that you gain an understanding of the [[reality]] of those people whom you blame or with |
whom you have contention and to recognize the importance of these relationships in giving you | whom you have contention and to recognize the importance of these relationships in giving you | ||
wisdom and helping to teach you something of real value that you can use throughout the course | wisdom and helping to teach you something of real value that you can use throughout the course | ||
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"If you are to see into the reality of another person, which is necessary if you are ever to establish | "If you are to see into the reality of another person, which is necessary if you are ever to establish | ||
| − | a real relationship with them, you cannot bring the weight of condemnation into this | + | a real [[relationship]] with them, you cannot bring the weight of [[condemnation]] into this |
understanding. Even if you recognize limitations and errors within this person, it is done from a | understanding. Even if you recognize limitations and errors within this person, it is done from a | ||
| − | position of clarity and compassion. There is no blame." | + | position of clarity and [[compassion]]. There is no blame." |
<ref name="hr"/> | <ref name="hr"/> | ||
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burdened by guilt or confusion or in anger blame others for | burdened by guilt or confusion or in anger blame others for | ||
your own apparent failures? | your own apparent failures? | ||
| − | <ref>[[Steps to Knowledge]], Step 44</ref> | + | <ref>[http://stepstoknowledge.com/steps/Step44-I-wish-to-know-my-own-strength.htm ''[[Steps to Knowledge]]'', Step 44: I wish to know my own strength]</ref> |
"Often people become very [[laziness|lazy]] here because they are waiting for | "Often people become very [[laziness|lazy]] here because they are waiting for | ||
something to change them.Then if it goes wrong, they have someone else | something to change them.Then if it goes wrong, they have someone else | ||
| − | to blame. | + | to blame.'Hey, I was just there and it changed. Don’t blame me!' But to |
| − | take full responsibility means that you are cooperating with life in bringing | + | take full [[responsibility]] means that you are cooperating with life in bringing |
about the necessary adjustments as you proceed." | about the necessary adjustments as you proceed." | ||
| − | <ref>[[Wisdom from the Greater Community]] Volume One, Chapter 33</ref> | + | <ref>''[[Wisdom from the Greater Community]] Volume One'', Chapter 33: Provoking Change</ref> |
"It is a confrontation that is necessary, or people will not rise to the occasion. They will not see | "It is a confrontation that is necessary, or people will not rise to the occasion. They will not see | ||
what will be required of them or their nations. They will always blame other people. They will | what will be required of them or their nations. They will always blame other people. They will | ||
| − | always think it is because of someone else that they are suffering or that the times are difficult. | + | always think it is because of someone else that they are [[suffering]] or that the times are difficult. |
And all the energy that goes into complaining and whining and projecting blame upon others will | And all the energy that goes into complaining and whining and projecting blame upon others will | ||
all be wasted, for it will lead to nothing at all. It will not generate constructive action. It will not | all be wasted, for it will lead to nothing at all. It will not generate constructive action. It will not | ||
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"This is a time now to stop blaming others, to end your ceaseless debates, to set aside your | "This is a time now to stop blaming others, to end your ceaseless debates, to set aside your | ||
| − | grievances and your hostilities, to face the fact that you are going to have to live life much more | + | grievances and your hostilities, to face the fact that you are going to have to live [[life]] much more |
simply in the future. You will be living in a world of great resource restraints. You will not be | simply in the future. You will be living in a world of great resource restraints. You will not be | ||
able to get around very easily. Everything will be very expensive and there will have to be a | able to get around very easily. Everything will be very expensive and there will have to be a | ||
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<ref name="ntdta"/> | <ref name="ntdta"/> | ||
| − | "People want change and peace. | + | "People want change and [[peace]]. |
They expect others who do not have what they have to be peaceful, to be peaceful and | They expect others who do not have what they have to be peaceful, to be peaceful and | ||
cooperative with one another. They think that someone else should take care of the great | cooperative with one another. They think that someone else should take care of the great | ||
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These relationships almost never succeed and are extremely costly because the giver will eventually | These relationships almost never succeed and are extremely costly because the giver will eventually | ||
feel taken advantage of and the receiver will be blamed for not meeting the giver’s expectations." | feel taken advantage of and the receiver will be blamed for not meeting the giver’s expectations." | ||
| − | <ref name="rhp13">[[Relationships & Higher Purpose]], Chapter 13</ref> | + | <ref name="rhp13">''[[Relationships & Higher Purpose]]'', Chapter 13: Maintaining Relationships</ref> |
| − | "If you have expressed everything you need to express, if you have taken responsibility for your | + | "If you have expressed everything you need to express, if you have taken [[responsibility]] for your |
| − | own difficulties, errors, lack of honesty and so forth, and if you have not projected blame upon the | + | own difficulties, [[Mistakes|errors]], lack of [[honesty]] and so forth, and if you have not projected blame upon the |
other but have assigned cause to both of you, this wound will begin to heal, giving you the possibility to | other but have assigned cause to both of you, this wound will begin to heal, giving you the possibility to | ||
move forward into a greater and more complete union with someone else. However, if blame is | move forward into a greater and more complete union with someone else. However, if blame is | ||
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"Be prepared then during separation in a | "Be prepared then during separation in a | ||
| − | relationship, for you will be blamed to a certain degree, and there will be anger and resentment towards | + | relationship, for you will be blamed to a certain degree, and there will be [[anger]] and resentment towards |
you. Perhaps some of it is justified." | you. Perhaps some of it is justified." | ||
| − | <ref >[[Relationships & Higher Purpose]], Chapter 14</ref> | + | <ref >''[[Relationships & Higher Purpose]]'', Chapter 14: Completing Relationships</ref> |
==Blaming Other Nations== | ==Blaming Other Nations== | ||
| − | "It has taken a very long time to create the conditions that will bring about the Great Waves of change. And everyone has participated in this to some degree, so there is no one person or organization or nation alone who is fully to blame. The wealthy nations have taken more, but everyone has taken from the world—even the poorest people, who have taken so little and who have so little. Everyone is responsible." The Race to Save Human Civilization | + | |
| + | "It has taken a very long time to create the conditions that will bring about the [[Great Waves of Change|Great Waves of change]]. And everyone has participated in this to some degree, so there is no one person or organization or nation alone who is fully to blame. The wealthy nations have taken more, but everyone has taken from the world—even the poorest people, who have taken so little and who have so little. Everyone is responsible."<ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/the-race-to-save-human-civilization The Race to Save Human Civilization (July 22, 2009)]</ref> | ||
==Blaming yourself== | ==Blaming yourself== | ||
| − | "You come to the world to give because you must give.That is | + | "You come to [[the world]] to give because you must give.That is |
| − | your nature. If you do not give, you will be unhappy and blame everybody | + | your [[Nature and Design|nature]]. If you do not give, you will be unhappy and blame everybody |
for it, even yourself, but you will not be happy." | for it, even yourself, but you will not be happy." | ||
| − | <ref>[[Wisdom from the Greater Community]] Volume One, Chapter 7</ref> | + | <ref>''[[Wisdom from the Greater Community]] Volume One'', Chapter 7: Freedom</ref> |
"Some people are very critical, thinking that they have created all this | "Some people are very critical, thinking that they have created all this | ||
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doing. Do you blame the child for being a child? Do you punish a child | doing. Do you blame the child for being a child? Do you punish a child | ||
for acting silly or being forgetful or not having skills?" | for acting silly or being forgetful or not having skills?" | ||
| − | <ref>[[Wisdom from the Greater Community]] Volume One, Chapter 22</ref> | + | <ref>''[[Wisdom from the Greater Community]] Volume One'', Chapter 22: Escaping Suffering</ref> |
==Blaming the Messenger== | ==Blaming the Messenger== | ||
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People will feel threatened by his declarations, not because the declarations are incorrect, but | People will feel threatened by his declarations, not because the declarations are incorrect, but | ||
because they are unwilling or unable to re-examine their own ideas." | because they are unwilling or unable to re-examine their own ideas." | ||
| − | <ref name="tbotm">The Burden of the Messenger | + | <ref name="tbotm">[http://www.newmessage.org/the-burden-of-the-messenger The Burden of the Messenger (April 5, 2011)]]</ref> |
| − | (April 5, 2011)</ref> | ||
| − | "He will be limited by the limitations of people’s response. He will be held back by the ignorance | + | "He will be limited by the limitations of people’s response. He will be held back by the [[ignorance]] |
of others. He will have to contend with projections of blame and condemnation." | of others. He will have to contend with projections of blame and condemnation." | ||
<ref name="tbotm"/> | <ref name="tbotm"/> | ||
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<ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/nm/discerning-false-messengers/ Discerning False Messengers (March 21, 2000)]</ref> | <ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/nm/discerning-false-messengers/ Discerning False Messengers (March 21, 2000)]</ref> | ||
| − | "if you judge the Messenger based upon ideas or your own projections of fear and | + | "if you judge [[the Messenger]] based upon ideas or your own projections of fear and |
blame, you will not see and you will not know." | blame, you will not see and you will not know." | ||
<ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/nm/the-story-of-the-messenger/The Story of the Messenger (May 23, 2011)]</ref> | <ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/nm/the-story-of-the-messenger/The Story of the Messenger (May 23, 2011)]</ref> | ||
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==Further study== | ==Further study== | ||
[http://newmessage.org/nmfg/Steps_to_Knowledge.html Steps to Knowledge], Steps 99, 205, 207, 229 | [http://newmessage.org/nmfg/Steps_to_Knowledge.html Steps to Knowledge], Steps 99, 205, 207, 229 | ||
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| + | ==See also== | ||
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| + | [[Condemnation]] | ||
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| + | [[Judgment]] | ||
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| + | [[category:mental environment]] | ||
Revision as of 16:57, 25 May 2015
"In stillness there is no blame or judgment." [1]
"Knowledge ... does not generate hate and blame." [2]
"People love to complain about the way things are and cast blame all around, but where are they in responding to the world?" [3]
Directives
"Do not project upon yourself the weight of blame and unforgiveness." [4]
"Do not attempt to justify your errors by projecting blame upon yourself or by accusing life of not giving you what you need." [5]
"Think about your relationship with God. Ask yourself: '... Have I blamed God for what has happened in my life?'” [6]
"You must take responsibility for your own suffering, accept your own suffering and learn from your own suffering without blame or a feeling of revenge upon others or life in general." [7]
"Many have not responded to a greater need and a greater calling in their lives. Why blame them for this? Accept it." [8]
"Do not blame God for the hurricanes or the droughts or the pestilence or the pandemic illness or personal failure." [9]
Blaming God
"God did not invent your ideas and beliefs. God did not create your preferences and your fears. God did not create the world that is a product of everyone’s preferences and fears. You cannot blame God for the social conditions of humanity. You cannot blame God for wars and cruelty, exploitation, slavery and poverty. That is all a human creation based upon greed and ignorance, based upon not enough people contributing enough to the world around them. But God did create the presence of Knowledge within you, and only God’s New Revelation makes this very clear, without an overlay of history and human interpretation to cloud your understanding. The stream is clear. The Message is pure. You are receiving it from its Source, instead of an interpretation that was made centuries later for human consumption." [10]
"You can blame God for the fact that there are hurricanes. 'Why did you create hurricanes?' you may ask, but God only created the conditions under which hurricanes emerge. That was before there was any life in this world. But God did not create this hurricane to punish humanity. This is foolishness. This is ignorance." [11]
"You will have to become very observant, very objective and willing to face whatever is coming over the horizon. Otherwise, you will panic, and your life will be overtaken with tragic consequences. You may blame God for this, but God has been warning you all along through your experience, through your dreams, through your sensations and through your deeper emotions." [12]
"God does not will for natural disasters, plagues, illness or catastrophes. You can blame these things on the old God, but not on the new God." [13]
Blaming the world
"For [men and women of Knowledge], the world is something very different. Its tribulations are opportunities. Its [Conflict Resolution|conflicts] represent its calling. Its difficulties and disasters represent its condition. There is no complaint and no blame here. There is only work to be done." [14]
"The world does not need blame. It needs service. It needs truth. And above all, it needs Knowledge." [15]
"You have come here to do something. If you do not do it, you will feel very confused and frustrated.This is difficult to comprehend because you tend to blame your circumstances for this frustration." [16]
"You can blame many things, of course. You can blame culture. You can blame sinful attractions. You can blame the devil. You can blame God. You can blame a million things. But fundamentally it is because you are not being guided by Knowledge." [11]
"Change ... often generates blame and condemnation." [17]
Blaming others
"You cannot live in a state of fantasy or denial, projecting your blame and hostility on your parents or your culture or organizations or governments." [18]
"Your spiritual work must fundamentally deal with the issue of resolution and forgiveness, which requires that you gain an understanding of the reality of those people whom you blame or with whom you have contention and to recognize the importance of these relationships in giving you wisdom and helping to teach you something of real value that you can use throughout the course of your life." [19]
"If you are to see into the reality of another person, which is necessary if you are ever to establish a real relationship with them, you cannot bring the weight of condemnation into this understanding. Even if you recognize limitations and errors within this person, it is done from a position of clarity and compassion. There is no blame." [19]
"How can you approach your strength when you feel weak and helpless, when you feel unworthy, if you are burdened by guilt or confusion or in anger blame others for your own apparent failures? [20]
"Often people become very lazy here because they are waiting for something to change them.Then if it goes wrong, they have someone else to blame.'Hey, I was just there and it changed. Don’t blame me!' But to take full responsibility means that you are cooperating with life in bringing about the necessary adjustments as you proceed." [21]
"It is a confrontation that is necessary, or people will not rise to the occasion. They will not see what will be required of them or their nations. They will always blame other people. They will always think it is because of someone else that they are suffering or that the times are difficult. And all the energy that goes into complaining and whining and projecting blame upon others will all be wasted, for it will lead to nothing at all. It will not generate constructive action. It will not raise the level of personal responsibility." [22]
"The mind does not want to suffer, so it creates convenient solutions, convenient conclusions and simple explanations. It casts blame upon others." [2]
"This is a time now to stop blaming others, to end your ceaseless debates, to set aside your grievances and your hostilities, to face the fact that you are going to have to live life much more simply in the future. You will be living in a world of great resource restraints. You will not be able to get around very easily. Everything will be very expensive and there will have to be a great emphasis on producing food and other necessary things on a much more local scale. There will have to be tremendous restraint of anger, blame and hostility if people are to make this necessary transition." [2]
"People want change and peace. They expect others who do not have what they have to be peaceful, to be peaceful and cooperative with one another. They think that someone else should take care of the great problems of the world, and they blame others for the fact that the world is the way it is today. They do not see their own part of the responsibility in this." [23]
Blaming partners for failure in relationship
"Often people will assume that they are going to be the therapist or the teacher for their partner. These relationships almost never succeed and are extremely costly because the giver will eventually feel taken advantage of and the receiver will be blamed for not meeting the giver’s expectations." [24]
"If you have expressed everything you need to express, if you have taken responsibility for your own difficulties, errors, lack of honesty and so forth, and if you have not projected blame upon the other but have assigned cause to both of you, this wound will begin to heal, giving you the possibility to move forward into a greater and more complete union with someone else. However, if blame is maintained, if resentments are honored, if unforgiveness is preserved and if your own responsibility has not been accepted, then the wound will not heal and will be a source of pain and discomfort, anxiety and concern in the future." [24]
"If you cannot participate in the world together, you will not be able to be together. Therefore, you want to choose someone who is ready, willing and able to participate in the world with you—not someone who wants to do it but cannot do it, or someone who can do it but who does not want to do it, or someone who is not ready to do it but who someday might want to do it. This person must be ready, willing and able. If they are ambivalent and you are not, you will pay the price and they will receive the blame." [24]
"Be prepared then during separation in a relationship, for you will be blamed to a certain degree, and there will be anger and resentment towards you. Perhaps some of it is justified." [25]
Blaming Other Nations
"It has taken a very long time to create the conditions that will bring about the Great Waves of change. And everyone has participated in this to some degree, so there is no one person or organization or nation alone who is fully to blame. The wealthy nations have taken more, but everyone has taken from the world—even the poorest people, who have taken so little and who have so little. Everyone is responsible."[26]
Blaming yourself
"You come to the world to give because you must give.That is your nature. If you do not give, you will be unhappy and blame everybody for it, even yourself, but you will not be happy." [27]
"Some people are very critical, thinking that they have created all this misery and suffering. Well, they have, but it is only because they did not know any better. After all, you are simply doing what everyone else is doing. Do you blame the child for being a child? Do you punish a child for acting silly or being forgetful or not having skills?" [28]
Blaming the Messenger
"He will be asked foolish questions. He will be asked malicious questions. Doubt and blame and terrible associations will be cast upon him by the foolish and the ignorant. People will feel threatened by his declarations, not because the declarations are incorrect, but because they are unwilling or unable to re-examine their own ideas." [29]
"He will be limited by the limitations of people’s response. He will be held back by the ignorance of others. He will have to contend with projections of blame and condemnation." [29]
"He will be doubted, maligned and blamed for the failures of so many others who really could not substantiate themselves." [30]
"if you judge the Messenger based upon ideas or your own projections of fear and blame, you will not see and you will not know." [31]
References
- ↑ Steps to Knowledge, Step 205: I will not judge the world today
- ↑ 2.0 2.1 2.2 Navigating the Difficult Times Ahead (September 29, 2008)
- ↑ The Watchtower (February 17, 2009)
- ↑ Steps to Knowledge, Step 209: I will not be cruel with myself today
- ↑ Steps to Knowledge, Step 246: There is no justification for failing to reclaim Knowledge
- ↑ Relationships & Higher Purpose, Chapter 1: Your Most Primary Relationship
- ↑ Wisdom from the Greater Community Volume Two, Chapter 16: Thresholds
- ↑ Wisdom from the Greater Community Volume Two, Chapter 29: Inspiration
- ↑ God, Knowledge and the Angelic Presence (September 17, 2008)
- ↑ The Gift of a New Life (May 14, 2011)
- ↑ 11.0 11.1 Nature and Natural Disasters (September 8, 2008)
- ↑ What Will Save Humanity (March 30, 2008)
- ↑ The New God
- ↑ Greater Community Spirituality, Chapter 2: What is the world?
- ↑ Steps to Knowledge, Step 60I will not judge the world today
- ↑ Wisdom from the Greater Community Volume One, Chapter 19: Fulfillment
- ↑ Wisdom from the Greater Community Volume Two, Chapter 18: Compassion
- ↑ God Has Spoken Again (February 24, 2011)
- ↑ 19.0 19.1 Healing Relationships (September 9, 2008)
- ↑ Steps to Knowledge, Step 44: I wish to know my own strength
- ↑ Wisdom from the Greater Community Volume One, Chapter 33: Provoking Change
- ↑ What Will End War (April 29, 2007)
- ↑ The Gift (March 31, 2007)
- ↑ 24.0 24.1 24.2 Relationships & Higher Purpose, Chapter 13: Maintaining Relationships
- ↑ Relationships & Higher Purpose, Chapter 14: Completing Relationships
- ↑ The Race to Save Human Civilization (July 22, 2009)
- ↑ Wisdom from the Greater Community Volume One, Chapter 7: Freedom
- ↑ Wisdom from the Greater Community Volume One, Chapter 22: Escaping Suffering
- ↑ 29.0 29.1 The Burden of the Messenger (April 5, 2011)]
- ↑ Discerning False Messengers (March 21, 2000)
- ↑ Story of the Messenger (May 23, 2011)
Further study
Steps to Knowledge, Steps 99, 205, 207, 229