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"Relationship is when two or more people come together to fulfill an inner and an outer need."
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"Relationship is when two or more people come together to fulfill an inner and an outer [[need]]."
<ref>''[[Relationships and Higher Purpose]]'', chapter 12</ref>
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<ref>''Relationships & Higher Purpose'', Chapter 12: [https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-2/relationships-higher-purpose/establishing-meaningful-relationshipsEstablishing Relationships]</ref>
 
 
 
 
"Much of human engagement is merely an escape from one's self."
 
<ref>Harmful Influences (May 13, 2011)</ref>
 
 
 
  
 
“Alone you can do nothing, for nothing in life is done alone.”
 
“Alone you can do nothing, for nothing in life is done alone.”
<ref name="s2k">Steps to Knowledge, Step 249</ref>
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<ref name="s2k">''[https://stepstoknowledge.com/ Steps to Knowledge]'', Step 249: Alone I can do nothing.</ref>
  
== Relationship with God ==
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"We give personal relationships the greatest priority,
"If you cannot engage with God, how are you going to really engage with anyone else? If you cannot experience affinity with the Power and the Presence of God, how are you going to experience affinity with anyone else? You may become intoxicated, falling in love temporarily with someone. You may be delighted with another’s presence, but will you be able to experience true affinity with them? If you do not trust God, how will you trust anyone else?"
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for they have the greatest potential for strengthening or
<ref>God’s Power & Presence in the World (April 23, 2011)</ref>
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weakening those who participate."<ref>''Secrets of Heaven'', Secret 165</ref>
  
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== The Pillar of relationship ==
  
"This relationship, however, which is so primary, can never be your sole focus, for God wants your eyes turned to the world where you have come to serve and to work. The more God abides with you as your work progresses and becomes a deeper experience and a greater commitment for you, the more God grows in your experience. Here God becomes more a context than an individual, more a greater experience of relationship than an authority. In this way, God is able to work through you without distracting you. In this way, you are able to work with God without losing your focus in the world."
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"In living in the world, there are [[the Four Pillars of life]]. These are all part of your foundation building. They are the pillars of relationships, health, work and spiritual development. These are the cornerstones of your foundation in life."
<ref name="greater">[http://www.newmessage.org/books/greater-community-spirituality-contents.php ''[[Greater Community Spirituality]]'']</ref>
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<ref name="ltwk2">''Living The Way of Knowledge'', Chapter 2: [http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-3/living-way-knowledge/the-four-pillars-of-life The Four Pillars of Life]</ref>
  
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== Directives ==
  
“Through Knowledge you can feel the Presence of all relationships. This is the experience of God.”
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“You must have a sense of who you are and where you are going in life based upon [[Knowledge]] before you can know who to be with and how to be with them.”<ref name="lar"/>
<ref>''[[Steps to Knowledge]]'', Step 169</ref>
 
  
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"If you feel love for someone, then feel it, but do not give it a form. Observe the situation and see if this is correct, if this person really understands your deeper nature and is going where you are going and is called as you are being called."<ref name="lar">[http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/other-revelations/love-and-relationships Love and Relationships] (April 21, 2011)</ref>
  
"If you cannot engage with God, how are you gong to really engage with anyone else? If you cannot experience affinity with the Power and the Presence of God, how are you going to experience affinity with anyone else? You may become intoxicated, falling in love temporarily with someone. You may be delighted with another's presence, but will you be able to experience true affinity with them? If you do not trust God, how will you trust anyone else?"
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“Choose your engagements carefully, enter into them slowly and allow your [[Knowledge]], as opposed to your [[ambition]], to guide your actions. You lose nothing by moving slowly; you risk everything by moving quickly. If you cannot allow yourself to move slowly, you have good cause to distrust your motives already.”
<ref>God's Power and Presence in the World, April 23, 2011</ref>
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<ref>''Relationships & Higher Purpose'', Chapter 3: [http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-2/relationships-higher-purpose/your-relationship-with-others Your Relationship with Others]</ref>
  
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"You have to have a sound relationship with your mind and your body. You have to develop your health. You have to develop your Pillar of Work. You have so many things to do now to build your foundation in life. You have the Steps to Knowledge to take to build your connection with Knowledge. No one should be pining away for a relationship when they have all of this work to do to build their foundation." <ref name="dir">''Love and Relationships'': [http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/other-revelations/discernment-in-relationships  Discernment in Relationships]</ref>
  
“What is God, what is the return to God, but the return to relationship? Some people wish to return to God and commit themselves to God, but they cannot be with anybody. And so they are trying to be with everything, but they do not know how to be with any one thing.
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"Learning from a teacher involves several things. It involves receiving, evaluation and application. It also involves supporting that individual, which is your form of giving to them. Particularly in [[The Way of Knowledge]], real teachers of Knowledge rely upon this, for they are giving their life to this service and they are worthy of generous [[support]]. Do not bargain with your support, but give what you know you have to give. Then there will be no inequality and no uncertainty in the relationship."<ref>''Wisdom from the Greater Community Volume II'', Chapter 20: [https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-5/wisdom-greater-community-volume-2/learn-others-want-learn Learning from Others]</ref>
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== Relationship with Knowledge==
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== Relationship with God Quotes==
  
"If Knowledge cannot be brought into your relationships and into your decisions regarding relationships, then Knowledge remains only a potential within you."
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“Through [[Knowledge]] you can feel [[the Presence]] of all relationships. This is the experience of God.”
<ref name="living"/>
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<ref>''Steps to Knowledge'', [https://stepstoknowledge.com/steps/Step169-The-world-is-within-me-This-I-know.htm Step 169]: The world is within me. This I know.</ref>
  
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"This relationship, however, which is so primary, can never be your sole focus, for [[God]] wants your eyes turned to the world where you have come to serve and to work. The more God abides with you as your work progresses and becomes a deeper experience and a greater [[commitment]] for you, the more God grows in your experience. Here God becomes more a context than an individual, more a greater experience of relationship than an [[authority]]. In this way, God is able to work through you without distracting you. In this way, you are able to work with [[God]] without losing your focus in the world."
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<ref name="gcs17">''Greater Community Spirituality'', Chapter 17: [http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-2/greater-community-spirituality/how-does-revelation-occur-in-human-life How does revelation occur in human life?]</ref>
  
“Your first and primary relationship is with Knowledge. Can your relationships with others support this?”
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"You cannot reach God directly without joining in holy relationships. Therefore, your interest in relationships is truly motivated, yet it is misinterpreted and misdirected. You feel the impulse, but you do not know where it comes from."<ref>''[[Secrets of Heaven]]'', Secret 18</ref>
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“What is [[God]], what is the return to God, but the return to relationship? Some people wish to return to God and commit themselves to God, but they cannot be with anybody. And so they are trying to be with everything, but they do not know how to be with any one thing.”
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<ref>''Wisdom from The Greater Community Volume I'', Chapter 5: [https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-5/wisdom-greater-community-volume-1/marriage-consummate-relationship-devotion Marriage]</ref>
  
"Knowledge is your primary relationship because it is your connection to God."
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"If you cannot engage with [[God]], how are you going to really engage with anyone else? If you cannot experience affinity with the Power and the Presence of God, how are you going to experience affinity with anyone else? You may become intoxicated, falling in [[love]] temporarily with someone. You may be delighted with another’s presence, but will you be able to experience true affinity with them? If you do not trust God, how will you trust anyone else?"
<ref>Ending Separation (March 3, 2011)</ref>
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<ref name="gpapitw">[http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-1/pure-religion/gods-power-in-you God’s Power & Presence in the World] (April 23, 2011)</ref>
  
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"The road to [[Heaven]] is through relationships. It is a road of relationships. You may try your hardest to feel whole and joined with life, and you will have experiences of this now and then, but until you can be joined to another, give yourself and dedicate your resources in conjunction with another’s [[dedication]], you are only flirting with reality."
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<ref name="ltwok8">''Living The Way of Knowledge'', Chapter 8: [https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-3/living-way-knowledge/building-spiritual-community Building Spiritual Community]</ref>
  
“Knowledge is the foundation for your ability to be in relationship with anyone or anything. Without Knowledge, people are in relationship only to gain advantage. They use others and they use life to gain advantage or to provide protection. They barter with their affections. They negotiate with their feelings. Here relationship is a form of commerce rather than a form of union. Prices are paid. Services are rendered. Can this be the real meaning of relationship?”
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"We have spoken many times about the experience of God in the context of relationship and communication. It is brought to you in this way so that you may practice with everything with which you come into contact."<ref>''Secrets of Heaven'', Secret 45</ref>
<ref>The Meaning of Christmas</ref>
 
  
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== Relationship with Knowledge ==
  
“Knowledge will not support a wrong decision in a relationship, and Knowledge will not go with you into that relationship. If you commit yourself prematurely, you pull yourself away from Knowledge. You can still come back to Knowledge, but it will not go along with you. It will become mute and silent, patiently waiting once again while you live out another long and perilous error in life.”
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“There is only [[Knowledge]] and the need for Knowledge. These are the only two things that any relationship can demonstrate to you.”
<ref name="ltwok3">''[[Living The Way of Knowledge]]'', Chapter 3</ref>
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<ref name="stkII">''Steps to Knowledge Continuation Training'', Step 23: “Today I will use conflict to deepen my experience of Knowledge.” </ref>
  
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[[File:Steps-to-knowledge.jpg|right|frame|more:http://newmessage.org/nmfg/Steps_to_Knowledge.html]]
  
“Your Knowledge cannot emerge within you alone. It must emerge in the context of relationship. It is absolutely hopeless for you alone to find out why you are here. You may have some wonderful definitions, but you are still a slave of your mind.
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“Your first and primary relationship is with [[Knowledge]]. Can your relationships with others support this?
<ref>''[[Wisdom from The Greater Community]] Volume One'', Chapter 13</ref>
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<ref name="ltwok3"/>
  
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"[[Knowledge]] is your primary relationship because it is your connection to [[God]]."
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<ref>Ending Separation (March 3, 2011)</ref>
  
“There is only Knowledge and the need for Knowledge. These are the only two things that any relationship can demonstrate to you.”
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"If [[Knowledge]] cannot be brought into your relationships and into your decisions regarding relationships, then Knowledge remains only a potential within you."
<ref name="stkII">''[[Steps to Knowledge]] Level II''</ref>
 
 
 
 
“There is a means for you to escape the world of ideas and enter the world of relationship, where everything is viable and real and based upon a foundation that can never change.”
 
<ref>Steps to Knowledge, Step 277</ref>
 
 
 
== Relationship with the World ==
 
"The world represents a relationship in which your purpose is initiated, fostered and realized. That is why seeking escape from the world or a permanent retreat from the world is counterproductive. The very tribulations in the world that you find so difficult and so unpleasant are the very things that will call out of you the greatness that you have come to give."<ref name="greater"/>
 
 
 
 
 
“Relationship is the essence of your environment, the environment in which you live. What you decide to do in your relationships will determine the kind of life you will have and the kind of problems you will have to solve.”
 
<ref name="wgcII">''[[Wisdom from The Greater Community]] Volume Two'', Chapter 6</ref>
 
 
 
==Relationship with Self==
 
 
 
“You have a relationship with yourself, which is primarily your relationship with your mind and your body.”
 
<ref>''[[Relationships & Higher Purpose]]'', Chapter 2</ref>
 
 
 
"Underneath everyone’s desperate pursuits, addictions, goals and fears is the desire to be known and recognized.”
 
<ref>Deeper Recognition in Relationships, September 11, 2008</ref>
 
 
 
==Starting Relationships==
 
 
 
“You must become the person you are meant to be before you can be in a relationship successfully, a deep harmonious relationship, a greater partnership. You bring to that what you have discovered within yourself.”
 
<ref name="lar"/>
 
 
 
 
 
“You must have a sense of who you are and where you are going in life based upon Knowledge before you can know who to be with and how to be with them.”
 
<ref name="lar"/>
 
 
 
 
 
“Choose your engagements carefully, enter into them slowly and allow your Knowledge, as opposed to your ambition, to guide your actions. You lose nothing by moving slowly;  you risk everything by moving quickly. If you cannot allow yourself to move slowly, you have good cause to distrust your motives already.”
 
<ref>''[[Relationships & Higher Purpose]]'', Chapter 3</ref>
 
 
 
 
 
"Many of the relationships that people initiate out of desire, passion or need are premature because it is important to get your bearings in life before you engage yourself or commit yourself to others."  
 
<ref name="living">''[[Living the Way of Knowledge]]''</ref>
 
 
 
==Maintaining Relationships==
 
 
 
"In living in the world, there are Four Pillars of life. These are all part of your foundation building. They are the pillars of relationships, health, work and spiritual development. These are the cornerstones of your foundation in life."
 
<ref name="ltwk2">''[[Living the Way of Knowledge]]'', Chapter 2</ref>
 
 
 
 
 
“To develop the Pillar of relationship means to recognize, to discern and to be prepared to participate in the essential relationships that are meant for you.”
 
 
<ref name="ltwok3"/>
 
<ref name="ltwok3"/>
  
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“[[Knowledge]] is the foundation for your ability to be in relationship with anyone or anything. Without Knowledge, people are in relationship only to gain advantage. They use others and they use [[life]] to gain advantage or to provide protection. They barter with their affections. They negotiate with their feelings. Here relationship is a form of commerce rather than a form of union. Prices are paid. Services are rendered. Can this be the real meaning of relationship?”
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<ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/other-revelations/the-meaning-of-christmas The Meaning of Christmas] (December 23, 1994)</ref>
  
“It is what you do together that determines the nature and purpose of relationship. That is why human romance is such an empty promise, for if you cannot do anything together, you have no basis for being together. The initial attraction turns cold and dark, and the desire and the embellished feelings turn ashen and become bitter and resentful.”
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“[[Knowledge]] will not support a wrong decision in a relationship, and Knowledge will not go with you into that relationship. If you commit yourself prematurely, you pull yourself away from Knowledge. You can still come back to Knowledge, but it will not go along with you. It will become mute and silent, patiently waiting once again while you live out another long and perilous error in life.”
<ref name="ltwok3"/>  
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<ref name="ltwok3">[http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-3/living-way-knowledge Living The Way of Knowledge''], Chapter 3: [https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-3/living-way-knowledge/essential-relationships-others The Pillar of Relationships]</ref>
  
==Concluding Relationships==
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“Your [[Knowledge]] cannot emerge within you alone. It must emerge in the context of relationship. It is absolutely hopeless for you alone to find out why you are here. You may have some wonderful definitions, but you are still a slave of your mind.”
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<ref name="wvi13">[http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-5/wisdom-greater-community-volume-1 ''Wisdom from The Greater Community Volume I''], Chapter 13: Spiritual Community</ref>
  
“You cannot be given a new realization if your life is full of relationships with people, places and things that are not right for you, that will not help you.
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"Your relationship with [[Knowledge]] represents your relationship with [[God]]. This is how God speaks to you. And you may not hear this as a voice. It may be a feeling, an image, a sound, a voice. People experience the power and presence of [[Knowledge]] differently, according to their individual orientation." <ref name="fol"/>
<ref name="pftf">Preparing for the Future, September 5, 2007</ref>
 
  
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"[[Knowledge]] will prepare you for these relationships. If you can find the way to Knowledge and dedicate yourself to it, then gradually all of your difficulties and dilemmas in relationship will be resolved." <ref name="gcs12">''Greater Community Spirituality'', Chapter 12: [http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-2/greater-community-spirituality/whom-will-you-meet Whom will you meet?]</ref>
  
“Every relationship you have should give you the strength to do this. Every possession you have should be either useful or inspiring to you. Every commitment and obligation must help you to prepare and to gain a foundation in Knowledge. For there are no neutral relationships in life. All your relationships with people, where you live, your possessions, your activities, are either strengthening or weakening you in taking the steps to Knowledge and in building a real foundation for your life.
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== Relationship with the Inner Teachers ==
<ref name="pftf"/>
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"The Teachers will give you a pure experience of relationship. You cannot see them; they are hard to [[judgment|judge]]. Your [[affinity]] for them will be firmly established before their appearance becomes known."<ref>''Secrets of Heaven'', Secret 42</ref>
  
==Strength and Weakness in Relationships==
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"Any attempt to use your relationship with the
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Teachers to satisfy your personal ends is of no concern
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to them. They acknowledge their purpose and nothing
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else. And since they do not have personal ends, they
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cannot corrupt the bond that you establish with them."<ref>''Secrets of Heaven'', Secret 98</ref>
  
“A relationship is only as good as the strength that its participants bring to it. It is the sum of your accomplishments.
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"If you wish to experience the Teachers of God who surround you, call them Angels or whatever you wish, you must have a place within yourself that is open for this. Therefore, empty your mind of grand thoughts. Then you may enter the present, which is the beginning of the experience of Knowledge."<ref>"Secrets of Heaven", Secret 226</ref>
<ref>''[[Steps to Knowledge]] Continuation Training'', Step 78</ref>
 
  
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"The Unseen Ones pay special attention to those who are responding. These individuals require greater care and emphasis. Those few who can advance will have a greater relationship with the Unseen Ones, whom they will rightly call Teachers. However, they will rarely experience the Teachers, and they may never know within this life who is speaking to them, helping them and guiding them."<ref>''Greater Community Spirituality'', Chapter16: [https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-2/greater-community-spirituality/who-are-the-unseen-ones Who are the Unseen Ones?]</ref>
  
“Here every relationship is either strengthening you or weakening you, for there are no neutral relationships. Everyone casts influence on one another, and that influence is either strengthening you and bringing you closer to Knowledge, or it is weakening you and taking you further away.
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"Your Teachers know about everything you want—all your preferences, everything. You don’t need to say, 'I want to find my husband or wife.' They know this already. Perhaps you need to say it to convince yourself that you are finally willing to do something about it or that you want something else. Here you may be enlisting yourself into active duty, but the Teachers know already."<ref>''Wisdom from the Greater Community Volume II'', Chapter 13: [https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-5/wisdom-greater-community-volume-2/religion-as-mystery Religion as Mystery]</ref>
<ref>Spiritual Community, March 11, 2011</ref>
 
  
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== Relationship with the world ==
  
“Therefore, we emphasize the value of your relationships to you who now seek to reclaim Knowledge. These relationships must be imbued with the Knowledge that you are reclaiming. Then they will have the stability, the efficacy and the grace that your Knowledge contains for you. For only relationships based upon Knowledge can carry the Wisdom that Knowledge will exert within the world. Relationships based upon personal attraction or personal fantasy do not have the foundation to carry Knowledge and will fail abruptly in the presence of the demands and requirements of a true life.
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"[[The world]] represents a relationship in which your purpose is initiated, fostered and realized. That is why seeking [[enlightenment|escape]] from the world or a permanent retreat from the world is counterproductive. The very tribulations in the world that you find so difficult and so unpleasant are the very things that will call out of you the greatness that you have come to give."
<ref name="s2k"/>
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<ref name="gcs18">''Greater Community Spirituality'', Chapter 18: [http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-2/greater-community-spirituality/what-is-human-destiny What Is Human Destiny?]</ref>
  
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“Relationship is the essence of your environment, the environment in which you live. What you decide to do in your relationships will determine the kind of life you will have and the kind of problems you will have to solve.”
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<ref name="wgcII">''Wisdom from The Greater Community Volume II'', Chapter 6: [http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-5/wisdom-greater-community-volume-2/discernment Discernment]</ref>
  
“The greatest evidence of a person’s self-understanding is the nature and the quality of the relationships that they establish around themselves.
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"You are a part of life and you will need to rely upon your relationships with others and with life as a whole to accomplish anything, even to survive."
<ref>''[[Steps to Knowledge]] Continuation Training'', Step 41</ref>
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<ref>''Steps to Knowledge'', [https://stepstoknowledge.com/steps/Step250-I-will-not-hold-myself-apart-today.htm Step 250]: I will not hold myself apart today.</ref>
  
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“There is a means for you to escape [[the world]] of [[ideas]] and enter the world of relationship, where everything is viable and real and based upon a foundation that can never change.”
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<ref>''Steps to Knowledge'', [https://stepstoknowledge.com/steps/Step277-My-ideas-are-small,-but-Knowledge-is-great.htm Step 277]: My ideas are small, but Knowledge is great.</ref>
  
“We say cultivate Knowledge and Knowledge will bring to you all relationships you truly need. Those you do not truly need will find no purpose there, and so your life will not be hindered and held back by inappropriate engagements.”
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== Relationship with Self ==
<ref>''[[Wisdom from The Greater Community]] Volume One'', Chapter 13</ref>
 
  
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"Much of human engagement is merely an escape from one's self."
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<ref>Harmful Influences (May 13, 2011)</ref>
  
"In the Greater Community, there are no powerful individuals. There are only powerful relationships.”
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“You have a relationship with yourself, which is primarily your relationship with your mind and your body.”
<ref>''[[Preparing for the Greater Community]]'', Chapter 6</ref>
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<ref>''Relationships & Higher Purpose'', Chapter 2: [http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-2/relationships-higher-purpose/your-relationship-with-yourself Your Relationship with Yourself]</ref>
  
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"Underneath everyone’s desperate pursuits, [[addiction]]s, goals and fears is the desire to be known and recognized.”
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<ref>[https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/other-revelations/deeper-connection-relationships A Deeper Recognition in Relationships] (September 11, 2008)</ref>
  
“Here people try to offset their sense of insecurity by securing partnerships with others. As a result, they form relationships based upon weakness and not upon strength.
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[[File:Wisdom_1_Cover.jpg‎|right|frame|More: http://www.newmessage.org/nmfg/Wisdom_from_the_Greater_Community_Volume_1.html]]
<ref name="ltwok3"/>
 
  
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== [[Higher Purpose|Purpose]] in Relationships Quotes ==
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"Your [[Higher Purpose|purpose]] is to discover your [[Knowledge]], follow Knowledge and let Knowledge shape and redirect your life. Your [[Calling]] is what [[Knowledge]] asks you specifically to do once you are ready to move in a specific direction. It is here that your relationships must become connected to your [[Calling]], and not just to your Purpose. In essence all relationships can serve your Purpose if understood correctly. But only a few are connected to your real [[Calling]]. If the New Message from God is your calling then all your core relationships will need to be connected to that."
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<ref>Marshall Vian Summers, School Campfire Chat, June 30, 2012</ref>
  
"You have no neutral relationships, for every one of them is either helping you or hindering you and holding you back. You are either gaining strength or losing strength to every one of these relationships."
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“Your [[time]] in life is precious. Your [[The Opportunity|opportunity]] here is great. The more you are aware that it is great, the less you will want to waste it on any endeavor or relationship that compromises you or that leads you astray.<ref name="gcs12"/>
<ref>The Deep Evaluation, June 3, 2008</ref>
 
  
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“You see, if your life is about [[contribution]], you do not have a problem finding people to be with you. Your problem now is choosing the right people to be with. You do not have to worry about a good career. Your problem is choosing the right career. Life bends itself to you who give, so thirsty for [[giving]] is life here. If [[the Presence]] is with you, people will come to you like magnetism.”
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<ref name="wgc15"/>
  
“And the person who will do you the most harm could well be someone who is totally enchanting to you and who seems to fit the absolute picture of what you are trying to acquire for yourself.”
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“Your purpose has been established and relationships have been designed for you already. Therefore, you need not be the author of your relationships, only a wise participant.”
<ref name="wgcII"/>
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<ref name="stkII"/>
  
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“What you have brought from your [[Ancient Home]] is meant to be given here and what you have brought is needed here as well. What you have brought from your [[Ancient Home]] is the power of relationship.”
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<ref name="stkII"/>
  
“Your progress here can only truly be thwarted by your misapplication in relationships.”
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“Who you are with will determine what you can know and your ability to follow what you know.”
<ref name="wgcII"/>
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<ref name="lar"/>
  
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“Once you prepare a place in your life for true purpose, true relationship must find you, for purpose requires relationship and will draw relationship unto itself.”
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<ref name="stkII"/>
  
"Build real relationships. Begin with your relationship with Knowledge and develop character by developing patience, forbearance, restraint, objectivity, compassion, the ability to observe others and the ability to have your life be undefined. This builds character, and with this you gain a greater capacity for experience. This is Wisdom. And in order for you to be a vehicle for Knowledge in life-to be an inspiration to others and to give your life wholeheartedly-you must have this foundation and you must have your essential relationships."
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“The power of relationship is the power given to carry out true purpose in the world. The power of relationship is to engage each person beyond their preferences and [[fear]] so that their true gifts may be brought forth into the world. The blessing of true relationship is the blessing born of [[Knowledge]], which is the greatest gift that can be rendered, which is the gift that I am sent here to give and to receive, to discover and to leave behind. Let me, then, prepare for my [[Ancient Home]] by recognizing the quality of relationship here that truly exists there.
<ref name="living"/>
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<ref name="stkII"/>
  
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“The great lives, what did they accumulate here? Only one thing and that is relationship. When they left, whether they were penniless or rich, what did they take Home with them? They took relationship.”
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<ref name="wgc15">''Wisdom from the Greater Community'', Book 1, Chapter 15: [http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-6/wisdom-greater-community-book-1/giving-i Giving 1]</ref>
  
“Without Knowledge, relationship is trial and error only. There are many people who have spent their primal energy on relationships with very little to show for it. They have wasted their lives, and yet they have justified this waste by saying that they have grown personally and that they have learned so much. But they are right back where they began. They are alone and they are still seeking for a meaningful union.”
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"People are [[gambling]] their existence. They are gambling their freedom. They are gambling their life, giving their lives away to people and situations that have no real promise for them, that are not really connected to the deeper criteria, the deeper agenda that exists within them that remains to be discovered."
<ref name="wgc5">''[[Wisdom from The Greater Community]] Volume One'', Chapter 5</ref>
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<ref name="fol">[https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-1/power-of-knowledge/following-presence-god Following the Presence] (February 17, 2008)</ref>
  
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== Pacification in Relationships ==
  
“Falling in love may be a wonderful dream, but it does not assure a real relationship at all. A real relationship is built upon compatibility, shared values and a commensurate level of strength and involvement in the world. Here if a strong person unites with a weak person, the strong person will become weaker. That is why if you want to become strong, you must be with someone who is strong.
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"Look at the relationships of a pacified person, who says, 'Well, we’re together as long as it feels good, as long as it’s okay, and if we’re not together, it’s okay, and whatever we do is okay.' But it’s not okay. And they know it’s not okay, but their natural [[knowledge|knowing]] has been removed from their awareness. As a result, they say, 'I will not feel those things. They disrupt my [[happiness]], my peace, my equanimity.' And yet there is no [[peace]] or equanimity because there is no [[integrity]], and because there is no integrity, there is no real relationship."<ref>''The Greater Darkness'': [https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-5/the-greater-darkness/the-effects-of-the-pacification-program The Effects of the Pacification Program]</ref>
<ref>The New Message for Young People, January 29, 2009</ref>
 
  
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== Metaphor for viewing relationships ==
  
“It is Knowledge that will bring the great relationships to you. It is not your prancing around, making a fool of yourself and degrading yourself in every conceivable way to try to attract the attention and the approval of some person.
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"The emphasis here is for you to reach that vantage point where you can see your relationship with God and with yourself clearly while you are in [[the world]]. It is from this vantage point that you will be able to see the relationship of all things. Like climbing a great mountain, you must reach a certain position where the relationship of that mountain to everything around it becomes self-evident."
<ref>Listening for Knowledge, September 24, 2009</ref>
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<ref>''Relationships and Higher Purpose'', Chapter 1: [https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-4/relationships-higher-purpose/your-most-primary-relationship Your Most Primary Relationship]</ref>
  
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==References==
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“Wrong decisions in relationships have disabled and disarmed many a promising person in the world. Many have lost their way and many have lost their chance in life as a result of making decisions here without Knowledge.”
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==See also==
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[[Attraction]]
  
“Great truth is a product of great relationship.”
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[[Ending relationships]]
<ref>''[[Steps to Knowledge]]'', Step 25</ref>
 
  
==Purpose in Relationships==
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[[Maintaining relationships]]
  
“You see, if your life is about contribution, you do not have a problem finding people to be with you. Your problem now is choosing the right people to be with. You do not have to worry about a good career. Your problem is choosing the right career. Life bends itself to you who give, so thirsty for giving is life here. If the Presence is with you, people will come to you like magnetism.”
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[[Objectivity]]
<ref name="wgc15"/>
 
  
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[[Outset]]
  
“God is preparing you for the right relationships, the ones that will make all the difference, the ones that will bring forth the power of Knowledge within yourself, the ones that will encourage you to discover your deeper nature and with it your greater purpose for being in the world.”
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[[Relationships of higher purpose]]
<ref name="lar">Love and Relationships, April 21, 2011</ref>
 
  
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[[Starting relationships]]
  
“Your purpose has been established and relationships have been designed for you already. Therefore, you need not be the author of your relationships, only a wise participant.”
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== Further study ==
<ref name="stkII"/>
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*''Relationships and Higher Purpose'', Chapter 1: [http://wp.newmessage.org/relationships-and-higher-purpose-chapter-1-your-most-primary-relationship/ Your Most Primary Relationship]
  
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*''Relationships and Higher Purpose'', Chapter 2: [http://wp.newmessage.org/relationships-and-higher-purpose-chapter-2-your-relationship-with-yourself/ Your Relationship with Yourself]
  
“What you have brought from your Ancient Home is meant to be given here and what you have brought is needed here as well. What you have brought from your Ancient Home is the power of relationship.”
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*''Relationships and Higher Purpose'', Chapter 4: [http://wp.newmessage.org/relationships-and-higher-purpose-chapter-4your-relationship-with-the-world/Your Relationship with the World]
<ref name="stkII"/>
 
  
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*''Relationships and Higher Purpose'', Chapter 11: [http://wp.newmessage.org/rhp-chapter-11-your-purpose-and-spiritual-calling/ Your Purpose and Spiritual Calling]
  
“Who you are with will determine what you can know and your ability to follow what you know.”
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*[https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/other-revelations/first-commitment-relationship-god The First Commitment] (September 25, 2008)
<ref name="lar"/>
 
 
 
 
 
“Once you prepare a place in your life for true purpose, true relationship must find you, for purpose requires relationship and will draw relationship unto itself.”
 
<ref name="stkII"/>
 
 
 
 
 
“The power of relationship is the power given to carry out true purpose in the world. The power of relationship is to engage each person beyond their preferences and fear so that their true gifts may be brought forth into the world. The blessing of true relationship is the blessing born of Knowledge, which is the greatest gift that can be rendered, which is the gift that I am sent here to give and to receive, to discover and to leave behind. Let me, then, prepare for my Ancient Home by recognizing the quality of relationship here that truly exists there.”
 
<ref name="stkII"/>
 
 
 
 
 
“The great lives, what did they accumulate here? Only one thing and that is relationship. When they left, whether they were penniless or rich, what did they take Home with them? They took relationship.”
 
<ref name="wgc15">''[[Wisdom from The Greater Community]] Volume One'', Chapter 15</ref>
 
 
 
 
 
==References==
 
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"Relationship is when two or more people come together to fulfill an inner and an outer need." [1]

“Alone you can do nothing, for nothing in life is done alone.” [2]

"We give personal relationships the greatest priority, for they have the greatest potential for strengthening or weakening those who participate."[3]

The Pillar of relationship

"In living in the world, there are the Four Pillars of life. These are all part of your foundation building. They are the pillars of relationships, health, work and spiritual development. These are the cornerstones of your foundation in life." [4]

Directives

“You must have a sense of who you are and where you are going in life based upon Knowledge before you can know who to be with and how to be with them.”[5]

"If you feel love for someone, then feel it, but do not give it a form. Observe the situation and see if this is correct, if this person really understands your deeper nature and is going where you are going and is called as you are being called."[5]

“Choose your engagements carefully, enter into them slowly and allow your Knowledge, as opposed to your ambition, to guide your actions. You lose nothing by moving slowly; you risk everything by moving quickly. If you cannot allow yourself to move slowly, you have good cause to distrust your motives already.” [6]

"You have to have a sound relationship with your mind and your body. You have to develop your health. You have to develop your Pillar of Work. You have so many things to do now to build your foundation in life. You have the Steps to Knowledge to take to build your connection with Knowledge. No one should be pining away for a relationship when they have all of this work to do to build their foundation." [7]

"Learning from a teacher involves several things. It involves receiving, evaluation and application. It also involves supporting that individual, which is your form of giving to them. Particularly in The Way of Knowledge, real teachers of Knowledge rely upon this, for they are giving their life to this service and they are worthy of generous support. Do not bargain with your support, but give what you know you have to give. Then there will be no inequality and no uncertainty in the relationship."[8]

Relationship with God Quotes

“Through Knowledge you can feel the Presence of all relationships. This is the experience of God.” [9]

"This relationship, however, which is so primary, can never be your sole focus, for God wants your eyes turned to the world where you have come to serve and to work. The more God abides with you as your work progresses and becomes a deeper experience and a greater commitment for you, the more God grows in your experience. Here God becomes more a context than an individual, more a greater experience of relationship than an authority. In this way, God is able to work through you without distracting you. In this way, you are able to work with God without losing your focus in the world." [10]

"You cannot reach God directly without joining in holy relationships. Therefore, your interest in relationships is truly motivated, yet it is misinterpreted and misdirected. You feel the impulse, but you do not know where it comes from."[11]

“What is God, what is the return to God, but the return to relationship? Some people wish to return to God and commit themselves to God, but they cannot be with anybody. And so they are trying to be with everything, but they do not know how to be with any one thing.” [12]

"If you cannot engage with God, how are you going to really engage with anyone else? If you cannot experience affinity with the Power and the Presence of God, how are you going to experience affinity with anyone else? You may become intoxicated, falling in love temporarily with someone. You may be delighted with another’s presence, but will you be able to experience true affinity with them? If you do not trust God, how will you trust anyone else?" [13]

"The road to Heaven is through relationships. It is a road of relationships. You may try your hardest to feel whole and joined with life, and you will have experiences of this now and then, but until you can be joined to another, give yourself and dedicate your resources in conjunction with another’s dedication, you are only flirting with reality." [14]

"We have spoken many times about the experience of God in the context of relationship and communication. It is brought to you in this way so that you may practice with everything with which you come into contact."[15]

Relationship with Knowledge

“There is only Knowledge and the need for Knowledge. These are the only two things that any relationship can demonstrate to you.” [16]

“Your first and primary relationship is with Knowledge. Can your relationships with others support this?” [17]

"Knowledge is your primary relationship because it is your connection to God." [18]

"If Knowledge cannot be brought into your relationships and into your decisions regarding relationships, then Knowledge remains only a potential within you." [17]

Knowledge is the foundation for your ability to be in relationship with anyone or anything. Without Knowledge, people are in relationship only to gain advantage. They use others and they use life to gain advantage or to provide protection. They barter with their affections. They negotiate with their feelings. Here relationship is a form of commerce rather than a form of union. Prices are paid. Services are rendered. Can this be the real meaning of relationship?” [19]

Knowledge will not support a wrong decision in a relationship, and Knowledge will not go with you into that relationship. If you commit yourself prematurely, you pull yourself away from Knowledge. You can still come back to Knowledge, but it will not go along with you. It will become mute and silent, patiently waiting once again while you live out another long and perilous error in life.” [17]

“Your Knowledge cannot emerge within you alone. It must emerge in the context of relationship. It is absolutely hopeless for you alone to find out why you are here. You may have some wonderful definitions, but you are still a slave of your mind.” [20]

"Your relationship with Knowledge represents your relationship with God. This is how God speaks to you. And you may not hear this as a voice. It may be a feeling, an image, a sound, a voice. People experience the power and presence of Knowledge differently, according to their individual orientation." [21]

"Knowledge will prepare you for these relationships. If you can find the way to Knowledge and dedicate yourself to it, then gradually all of your difficulties and dilemmas in relationship will be resolved." [22]

Relationship with the Inner Teachers

"The Teachers will give you a pure experience of relationship. You cannot see them; they are hard to judge. Your affinity for them will be firmly established before their appearance becomes known."[23]

"Any attempt to use your relationship with the Teachers to satisfy your personal ends is of no concern to them. They acknowledge their purpose and nothing else. And since they do not have personal ends, they cannot corrupt the bond that you establish with them."[24]

"If you wish to experience the Teachers of God who surround you, call them Angels or whatever you wish, you must have a place within yourself that is open for this. Therefore, empty your mind of grand thoughts. Then you may enter the present, which is the beginning of the experience of Knowledge."[25]

"The Unseen Ones pay special attention to those who are responding. These individuals require greater care and emphasis. Those few who can advance will have a greater relationship with the Unseen Ones, whom they will rightly call Teachers. However, they will rarely experience the Teachers, and they may never know within this life who is speaking to them, helping them and guiding them."[26]

"Your Teachers know about everything you want—all your preferences, everything. You don’t need to say, 'I want to find my husband or wife.' They know this already. Perhaps you need to say it to convince yourself that you are finally willing to do something about it or that you want something else. Here you may be enlisting yourself into active duty, but the Teachers know already."[27]

Relationship with the world

"The world represents a relationship in which your purpose is initiated, fostered and realized. That is why seeking escape from the world or a permanent retreat from the world is counterproductive. The very tribulations in the world that you find so difficult and so unpleasant are the very things that will call out of you the greatness that you have come to give." [28]

“Relationship is the essence of your environment, the environment in which you live. What you decide to do in your relationships will determine the kind of life you will have and the kind of problems you will have to solve.” [29]

"You are a part of life and you will need to rely upon your relationships with others and with life as a whole to accomplish anything, even to survive." [30]

“There is a means for you to escape the world of ideas and enter the world of relationship, where everything is viable and real and based upon a foundation that can never change.” [31]

Relationship with Self

"Much of human engagement is merely an escape from one's self." [32]

“You have a relationship with yourself, which is primarily your relationship with your mind and your body.” [33]

"Underneath everyone’s desperate pursuits, addictions, goals and fears is the desire to be known and recognized.” [34]

Purpose in Relationships Quotes

"Your purpose is to discover your Knowledge, follow Knowledge and let Knowledge shape and redirect your life. Your Calling is what Knowledge asks you specifically to do once you are ready to move in a specific direction. It is here that your relationships must become connected to your Calling, and not just to your Purpose. In essence all relationships can serve your Purpose if understood correctly. But only a few are connected to your real Calling. If the New Message from God is your calling then all your core relationships will need to be connected to that." [35]

“Your time in life is precious. Your opportunity here is great. The more you are aware that it is great, the less you will want to waste it on any endeavor or relationship that compromises you or that leads you astray.” [22]

“You see, if your life is about contribution, you do not have a problem finding people to be with you. Your problem now is choosing the right people to be with. You do not have to worry about a good career. Your problem is choosing the right career. Life bends itself to you who give, so thirsty for giving is life here. If the Presence is with you, people will come to you like magnetism.” [36]

“Your purpose has been established and relationships have been designed for you already. Therefore, you need not be the author of your relationships, only a wise participant.” [16]

“What you have brought from your Ancient Home is meant to be given here and what you have brought is needed here as well. What you have brought from your Ancient Home is the power of relationship.” [16]

“Who you are with will determine what you can know and your ability to follow what you know.” [5]

“Once you prepare a place in your life for true purpose, true relationship must find you, for purpose requires relationship and will draw relationship unto itself.” [16]

“The power of relationship is the power given to carry out true purpose in the world. The power of relationship is to engage each person beyond their preferences and fear so that their true gifts may be brought forth into the world. The blessing of true relationship is the blessing born of Knowledge, which is the greatest gift that can be rendered, which is the gift that I am sent here to give and to receive, to discover and to leave behind. Let me, then, prepare for my Ancient Home by recognizing the quality of relationship here that truly exists there.” [16]

“The great lives, what did they accumulate here? Only one thing and that is relationship. When they left, whether they were penniless or rich, what did they take Home with them? They took relationship.” [36]

"People are gambling their existence. They are gambling their freedom. They are gambling their life, giving their lives away to people and situations that have no real promise for them, that are not really connected to the deeper criteria, the deeper agenda that exists within them that remains to be discovered." [21]

Pacification in Relationships

"Look at the relationships of a pacified person, who says, 'Well, we’re together as long as it feels good, as long as it’s okay, and if we’re not together, it’s okay, and whatever we do is okay.' But it’s not okay. And they know it’s not okay, but their natural knowing has been removed from their awareness. As a result, they say, 'I will not feel those things. They disrupt my happiness, my peace, my equanimity.' And yet there is no peace or equanimity because there is no integrity, and because there is no integrity, there is no real relationship."[37]

Metaphor for viewing relationships

"The emphasis here is for you to reach that vantage point where you can see your relationship with God and with yourself clearly while you are in the world. It is from this vantage point that you will be able to see the relationship of all things. Like climbing a great mountain, you must reach a certain position where the relationship of that mountain to everything around it becomes self-evident." [38]

References

  1. Relationships & Higher Purpose, Chapter 12: Relationships
  2. Steps to Knowledge, Step 249: Alone I can do nothing.
  3. Secrets of Heaven, Secret 165
  4. Living The Way of Knowledge, Chapter 2: The Four Pillars of Life
  5. 5.0 5.1 5.2 Love and Relationships (April 21, 2011)
  6. Relationships & Higher Purpose, Chapter 3: Your Relationship with Others
  7. Love and Relationships: Discernment in Relationships
  8. Wisdom from the Greater Community Volume II, Chapter 20: Learning from Others
  9. Steps to Knowledge, Step 169: The world is within me. This I know.
  10. Greater Community Spirituality, Chapter 17: How does revelation occur in human life?
  11. Secrets of Heaven, Secret 18
  12. Wisdom from The Greater Community Volume I, Chapter 5: Marriage
  13. God’s Power & Presence in the World (April 23, 2011)
  14. Living The Way of Knowledge, Chapter 8: Building Spiritual Community
  15. Secrets of Heaven, Secret 45
  16. 16.0 16.1 16.2 16.3 16.4 Steps to Knowledge Continuation Training, Step 23: “Today I will use conflict to deepen my experience of Knowledge.”
  17. 17.0 17.1 17.2 Living The Way of Knowledge, Chapter 3: The Pillar of Relationships
  18. Ending Separation (March 3, 2011)
  19. The Meaning of Christmas (December 23, 1994)
  20. Wisdom from The Greater Community Volume I, Chapter 13: Spiritual Community
  21. 21.0 21.1 Following the Presence (February 17, 2008)
  22. 22.0 22.1 Greater Community Spirituality, Chapter 12: Whom will you meet?
  23. Secrets of Heaven, Secret 42
  24. Secrets of Heaven, Secret 98
  25. "Secrets of Heaven", Secret 226
  26. Greater Community Spirituality, Chapter16: Who are the Unseen Ones?
  27. Wisdom from the Greater Community Volume II, Chapter 13: Religion as Mystery
  28. Greater Community Spirituality, Chapter 18: What Is Human Destiny?
  29. Wisdom from The Greater Community Volume II, Chapter 6: Discernment
  30. Steps to Knowledge, Step 250: I will not hold myself apart today.
  31. Steps to Knowledge, Step 277: My ideas are small, but Knowledge is great.
  32. Harmful Influences (May 13, 2011)
  33. Relationships & Higher Purpose, Chapter 2: Your Relationship with Yourself
  34. A Deeper Recognition in Relationships (September 11, 2008)
  35. Marshall Vian Summers, School Campfire Chat, June 30, 2012
  36. 36.0 36.1 Wisdom from the Greater Community, Book 1, Chapter 15: Giving 1
  37. The Greater Darkness: The Effects of the Pacification Program
  38. Relationships and Higher Purpose, Chapter 1: Your Most Primary Relationship

See also

Attraction

Ending relationships

Maintaining relationships

Objectivity

Outset

Relationships of higher purpose

Starting relationships

Further study